Month: August 2012

14 Aug 2012

design your life

I am moving to a new apartment in two weeks. This is not terrible exciting news – I have thus far lived in two dorm rooms, one townhouse, one house-house, and two apartments. Plus, you know… moving.

What is exciting? This new apartment is the first time I have had the prospect of living in the same place for more than a few years. This new apartment is also the first time I have had a full-time wage.

Enter: Jessica’s Inner Interior Design Nut.

I have been reading design magazines since childhood, love perusing catalogs, and if we are shopping together in a large department store and you can’t find me? Check the home goods section.

However, my aforementioned apartments have always looked a bit like this:

I would really rather prefer if my apartment looked like this:

Or this…

I finally have the time/space/money/longevity to make some of my interior dreams come true.

However, I still have the following challenges:

  • I don’t want to paint right away.
  • I have a LITTLE money, but not a LOT of money
  • The Boy and all of the differing financial+aesthetic opinions that come along with cohabitation. Not to mention all the musical instruments.
  • My apartment is… well… a kinda cheap Boston apartment. Think peeling linoleum, walls with 100 coats of paint, a bathroom that requires two shower curtains, strangely arranged kitchen appliances, grungy carpet, etc etc.

But, where there’s a will, there’s a way. I’m planning some small projects and gleaning ideas not only from the internet, but from… oh… you guessed it! Some books.

Right now on my reading list…

Apartment Therapy Presents: Real Homes Real People by Maxwell Gillingham-Ryan

Apartment Therapy’s Big Book of Small, Cool Spaces by Maxwell Gillingham-Ryan

The Perfectly Imperfect Home by Deborah Needleman

and

The Domino Book of Decorating by Deborah Needleman, Sara Ruffin Costello and Dara Caponigro

Apparently, I currently have two patron saints of design. Needleman & Gillingham-Ryan, help me now in my time of need… I need to turn a tiny budget and a crappy apartment into something comfy and liveable and awesome while working full time and fufilling other “extracurricular” professional and non-professional activities, kthnx. If anyone has a good blog or book to throw my way, let me at it!

13 Aug 2012

2012: week thirty-two

August 5 – August 11

Life is so much better, now that…

  1. I don’t have to work multiple jobs.
  2. I don’t have to job search on top of working multiple jobs.
  3. I signed a lease for an apartment for September.
  4. I am home every night to cook dinner.
  5. I work in the same place where I pick up my library holds.

This past week was about feeling out my schedule, enjoying the fruits of my labor, and building some good habits. Like this one – putting away your clean laundry! AND THEN, while you put away your laundry, put together five outfits to wear and then hang them on individual hangers, so you don’t have to waste time looking for that one particular tank top that you like to wear under that shirt and where are my pants and why are they wrinkled?

This should not be a huge revelation, I realize. I am an adult, I swear. I bought a vacuum today, dammit!

I do miss my two housemates just a little, though. What are they doing all day while I am a working stiff? Cuddling? Playing Skyrim? Vacuuming? The possibilities are endless… they are usually ready to hang out when I get home, though, so I suppose all is well.

 

Reading:

Watching:

  • More LOST! We’ve finally reached the episodes I haven’t seen yet! And boy, are they weird…
  • A little bit of Louie… which is pretty funny, and a good show to pack to.

Listening:

  • I am finally back at work, so I can resume my podcasting ways. So much Marc Maron this week! I have also officially converted L into a WTF-onaut, so I get to listen to some shows in the car, too. Love it.
11 Aug 2012

summer links

 

What Do Professors Do All Summer?

In an effort to dispel any misinformation surrounding the purportedly leisure-filled lives of full-time professors, this series of posts details a week of summer days spent by one such professional. By nature, I think “day in the life” posts are fascinating… but this particular professor happens to be esteemed children’s literature scholar – Phil Nel of Kansas State University. Spoiler alert – he works hard in the summer to do all sorts of un-salaried projects in and around academia, but because those things sometimes include reading YA books aloud to his wife, talking about his upcoming biographies of kid lit authors, and other such industry bits, this series is EXTRA fun to read!

Thanks, Maurice

I am still sad about Maurice Sendak’s passing, still thinking about the man and his work. This was one of my favorite tributes – a series of artwork by the likes of Tomi Ungerer, Jon Klassen, Marc Rosenthal and the like.

 The Disreputable Analysis of Frankie Landau-Banks

If you were ever wondering why I loved my children’s literature program, please, allow me to enlighten you. These are alums of my program, including a professor of mine, a famous author, and other kidlit elite… aaaand they are talking about one of my favorite books – about feminism and field hockey and what exactly the author is saying. There are like, a zillion videos here. I just watched one while I ate lunch at my desk. Enjoy.

You Can Like What You Like

One of my favorite things about the kidlit/YA world is that reading is always part of the conversation – I don’t think that happens much when talking about adult lit, other than judgmental “Chick lit will rot your brain” stuff. Anyway, I’ve been thinking about my own reading tendencies and purposes lately, and I enjoyed Kelly’s Stacked post on reading independence. It’s fine to analyze, to try to read certain books or genres, to read with purpose… but in the end, you read what you want, and that’s fine.

YA Books Flowchart

Another Stacked lead, from a post featuring the bloggers at Readventurer. This is probably the most brilliant flowchart I have ever seen. I want to make one!!

8 Truths About Home Organization I Learned from the Berenstain Bears

I know, I know – children’s books that is overtly didactic in nature is the anathema of children’s lit champions.

However, if you take a look at my apartment, you will understand why I loved this post and why I wish I would have taken this particular volume of the Berenstain Bear more seriously as a child and learned a few things.

 

Girly Games, Games for Girls, and Girls Who Game

As a Girl Who Games but has never identified as a “Gamer,” I found this article about the history and tradition of Games for Girls to be really interesting. In other news, a friend just texted me this week and is bringing me a copy of Viva Pinata, a decided girl Xbox game.

 Looking Fat in Photographs

My darling friend Lindsey wrote this piece about Facebook and body acceptance. She is a rockstar and is awesome. The end. Post script: Lindsey, come to Boston and hang out with me. When I get some vacation time, I will come down and hang out with you.

Zen and the Art of Constructive Criticism

I know this might come as a major league surprise to some of y’all, but I am really the most sensitive flower alive. I remember mean (read: slightly critical) things people have said about me from THE FOURTH GRADE. Urgh. Anyway, this is something I work on pretty much on a daily basis, so I liked this article about both giving and receiving the better kind of criticism, the kind that doesn’t make the receiver want to curl up and die… for more than a few hours, anyway.

15 Ways to Stay Married for 15 Years

Again, I am getting an A in marriage. I liked this common sense advice. I think the world needs more common sense advice, sometimes. Okay fine, most of the time.

10 Aug 2012

boo

First week of New Job is drawing to a close, and I am so far pleased with the results.

It definitely feels excellent to go to One Job in One Location that does not involve an Hour Long Bus Ride Across the River and allows me an entire hour for lunch and a professional wage.

One of this week’s tasks has involved going through boxes and boxes of books and sorting them into piles. Maybe not everyone’s idea of a good time, but for me, a fine way to spend an afternoon. I am a fan of touching books, making piles of books, and most rote tasks in general.

So I was basically content with my lot in life when I opened a book and a slip of white paper fell into my lap. I’d forgotten that when you are touching and sorting and opening library books, sometimes, you get a surprise! I went through a short phase where I was a bit obsessed with the misplaced ephemera of strangers’ lives, after my darling mother introduced me to FOUND Magazine. The last time I worked in public libraries, I had both a filing folder and a bulletin board dedicated to storing and displaying my favorite scraps of paper.

I am taking this particular scrap of paper as a good omen; I flipped it over and found one of my favorite video game creatures on the other side.

Also, FOUND is on its 10th anniversary tour (TEN YEARS?!??!) and they are stopping at one of my favorite Boston-area bookstores next week. I may have to stop in and pay a visit, maybe leave this little guy in good hands.

09 Aug 2012

See You At Harry’s by Jo Knowles

Let’s talk briefly about the Problem Novel. Although I’m sure there are a few good articles and books to be read about this modern YA phenomenon, my understanding and use of the term refers to a type of novel where The Problem dominates the reading experience –  all other elements of story – plot, setting, character development become secondary. Sometimes, writing a Problem Novel means the writer gets away with slopping up the writing, filling a book with lousy, one-dimensional characters, or other crimes against literature. Sometimes, a Problem Novel is a well-written, complex piece of literature that just happens to be about Teens with Problems.

However, if one reads only Problem Novel after Problem Novel, no matter how well-written, one might start to feel their hope for humanity start to fade,  one might start to regret ever wanting to read YA when every book is full of drugs/death/prostitution/neglect/abuse, one might start running far in the opposite direction into a fluffy romance or other fantasy.

Jo Knowles’s See You At Harry’s criss-crosses the line between Problem Novel and Regular Novel with alarming rapidity for a book that is, otherwise, a quiet family story that falls in the late middle-grade, early YA territory. Fern is a middle child among four literarily-named, problem-prone siblings: Sara didn’t get into any good colleges, so she’s stuck at home working for the family restaurant, Holden is keeping a major league secret from his family and everyone he knows, and Charlie is a four-year-old, so he’s a handful. To sensitive Fern, her parents’ marriage seems strained, and the realities of running a family-owned ice cream shop put a strain on everyone.

There’s a lot of angst going on here, and Holden’s secret is certainly a capital-P Problem, but the combination of personalities and strong characterization emphasizes the family dynamic and the intricacies of each relationship, rather than focusing on the “issues.”

And then, Knowles throws in a sucker punch of a PROBLEM, for the whole family. By this point in the novel, I was so endeared by the characters, it didn’t feel like PROBLEM, it felt like a painful but complex family issue. That happens to far too many families.

And also, I was so endeared by the characters that I read the last half of the novel with pages flipping – I was alone with the boy, driving home to Michigan. It was getting late, and I read and read, finishing the last few pages with just barely enough daylight to light the page. Since then, I’ve run into two friends who uttered the phrase “Did you read See You At Harry’s?” in the just same tone that I knew immediately they had gone through the same emotional rollercoaster I did.

So there you have it – a not-so-Problematic Problem Novel that will make you weep. Well done, Jo.

08 Aug 2012

marriage 101

Earlier this year, I read Marriage Rules by Harriet Lerner. Although I was not married, and not even engaged, I was riveted. Smart, practical advice for folks in normal-ish, long-term relationships who aren’t having any major crises but are also interested in maintaining functional communication in their household? Yes, please.

This book doesn’t hold any ideas that are terribly revolutionary, but the fact that they are common-sense-isms written on paper and well-organized is the genius. Because when you are fighting/feeling nasty toward your loved one, the common-sense-isms aren’t just going to appear in your brain – you need somewhere reliable to go to retrieve them.

Anyway, fast-forward to this past trip home, where among other assorted wedding tasks, I spoke with the Pastor who will be officiating our ceremony next year. Our church has had some Pastoral turnover since I left home for college almost ten years ago (TEN YEARS AGO??), so I actually hadn’t met this Pastor before, but he is young, friendly, and willing to provide us premarital counseling over Skype.

After I returned to MA, we exchanged a few emails to confirm the date/time/details, etc. At the end of one email, I thought, “Hey, why not ask if there’s any Pastor-recommended books to check out? If he’s an expert enough to provide me counseling, surely he knows where the best, smartest, most useful marriage books are hiding! Or even some Bible chapters! Heck, I would totally read some Bible chapters!”

Long after hitting send, I realized that I basically asked my Pastor for a Marriage Syllabus.

Because it’s been three months since my last syllabus, and SOMEBODY JUST TELL ME WHAT TO READ ALREADY!

Also, I AM GOING TO GET AN A IN MARRIAGE OR AT LEAST AN A-MINUS JUST TRY AND STOP ME!

Marry an overacheiving, forever-academic librarian and this is what you get. For the rest of your life.

(My Pastor recommended The Five Love Languages, in case you were curious. Needless to say, it has been added to my hold list.)

07 Aug 2012

morning pages

I first learned about Morning Pages four years ago, when my fiction writing started to feel stressful, when I was getting ready to go to grad school, when I was feeling torn between a creative and professional life. The Morning Pages are part of Julia Cameron’s Artist’s Way – a longer plan for seeking creativity of all types. I’ve never fully committed to the plan, but the pages… they keep resurfacing.

Morning Pages are simple – wake up every morning and write three pages, longhand. You write whatever you want – the exercise is used to both foster creative discipline as well as clear your mental slate for more productive work. A journal with no expectations, no requirements except that you keep writing, stream of conscious-like, until the pages are full.

I’m not always great at writing in the morning – I take a long time to wake up, I get up late. I’m also excellent at crafting little excuses and lies – I never write three pages, for instance, always two, because my paper is narrow-ruled and my handwriting small. I’m also not convinced of their usefulness. Sometimes, I think that spending time on my inner neuroses doesn’t “clear the deck” – it just makes me more neurotic. So I start censoring my pages, which is counter-intuitive to the whole project, and then I start to question the exercise altogether.

But despite all that imperfection, I keep coming back. I started again last week because with all my road trips and vacations and sleeping in and decisions and the boy  home on summer vacation, I felt like I lost myself. When I forget what my own voice sounds like, that’s when I want those pages, whether they are in the morning or at 5 p.m., whether I am neurotic or level-headed,

whether I am living like an artist or not.

 

06 Aug 2012

2012: week thirty-one

July 29 – August 4

From a distance, my past week (month, year) must seem chock full of adult-ness and taking-care-of-business. I went to the RMV (again, please don’t ask), filled out HR paperwork, sent important emails, wrote large checks for apartments, and did all of my laundry. All of it!

However, all is not mature here in this maison; I’ve been sleeping in like my life depends on it, like I’ve entered a short-term coma each morning between 7 and 10, like I’m 16 (or 22, whatever) and it’s summer vacation.

It’s been balmy here in my third story apartment – hot in the morning, hotter in the afternoon, hot at night – so I give the heat some of the credit. It’s hard to get the motivation to leave a good dream when you’re other option involves being alert for your feverish sweating.

But then this morning, I realized I hadn’t set an alarm since I came back to Boston. Yes. That would do it.

Summer vacation is over, however – new job begins today, with a properly set alarm. Reality awaits!

 

Reading:

Watching:

  • More LOST
  • After the boy enjoyed Moonrise Kingdom, I forced him to watch The Royal Tenenbaums.
05 Aug 2012

alma mater

Out of all the unbelievable things that have happened over the past few weeks, one change stands out as particularly unfathomable:

I am leaving Simmons.

This goes beyond “Oh, I am graduating, boo hoo, let me get sentimental about this place where I learned and changed SO MUCH, omgg.” No, I am not feeling sobby – I am feeling perplexed, disbelieving, like moving away from your childhood home – you really never thought that you would leave, but here you are with your bags packed.

I’m not sure I have expressed how much time I spent at school. So much. So much time. It was my school, but also my place of employment. I worked anywhere between 20-40 hours a week for three years, plus 6 to 12 hours of class, plus other various school related activities, talking with people in the hallway, sending mail, buying index cards, eating meals, attending conferences, etc, etc, etc. I know how to book a room for an event, who to call if you get locked out of your office, which bathrooms have free tampons, which printers will print color for free, which baristas will give you 2 ice cubes in your iced coffee unless you specify.

Now, when I visit, it will truly be my alma mater and not The Place I Practically Live In.

How. Weird.

I should probably go into my office and, oh, you know, gather all of my earthly belongings and finish up some last things and give back my keys sometime, eh?

04 Aug 2012

The Watch that Ends the Night by Allan Wolf

Back in June, Deborah Hopkinson’s Titanic: Voices from the Disaster lit a Titanic-related fire underneath me – I think the day I finished, I picked up Allan Wolf’s The Watch that Ends the Night: Voices from the Titanic.

(I probably also put the movie on hold at the library, but forgive me – as established, I was 12 in 1997)

The Watch that Ends the Night is the story of the Titanic told in poems, with different passengers, crew members, and others providing unique voices and styles to each verse. I am not always a fan of books told with poetry, but I loved both Wolf’s writing and story execution – the alternating voices were engaging, the variations in each poem’s style and form was subtle, and the poems stand alone. It’s the kind of writing that makes you want to slow down, maybe read aloud.

I’m glad that I read Hopkinson’s book first – although Wolf’s work is most certainly a work of fiction, the voices and characters are actual Titanic passengers, many of whom are profiled in Hopkinson’s work. I liked recognizing some of the more obscure characters who played major roles on-ship and during the wreck – the tireless and cheerful wireless operator, Harold McBride, was one of my favorite characters in both Hopkinson & Wolf’s works. But maybe even more interesting is when Wolf give some of the more famous characters an unlikely voice or point of view; his treatment of John Jacob Astor IV, the richest passenger on board, traveling with his pregnant 18-year-old mistress, was particularly unique and moving.

But the most enigmatic, surprising character with the most intoxicatingly rhythmic style? The Iceberg. Gimmicky? Eye-roll-inducing? No. Wolf’s Iceberg is dark, menacing, and constant, providing a voice for the undercurrent of pain, of destruction, of death that is so frightening about Titanic’s story… and about all stories. Nature always wins.

Overall, I was impressed by how Wolf uses language and style to capture these bigger, human themes. This book never feels like a “fictionalization,” but more like an exploration, using poetry to do things that straight nonfiction can’t. I’m not sure this is a book I could ever bear to read again, but I don’t think I will soon forget it.